What Story Is Shaping Your Leadership Right Now?

Sep 25

Wednesday was a powerful day for me.

In the morning, I poured into soldiers at Fort Hood preparing to leave the Army and start businesses.

In the afternoon, a coach poured into me at a CEO mastermind.

That evening, I connected with my peer group, and we poured into each other.

As I reflected on the day’s activities before I hit the pillow, one theme tied it all together: the way we see ourselves and the way we speak to ourselves has incredible power.

1. Identity Drives Results

Your identity shapes your mindset.

Your mindset prompts your actions.

Your actions drive your results.

In other words, identity drives results.

If you see yourself as someone who wins, leads, and endures, your mindset will carry you through to the realization of such results. You won’t stop until the desired target is hit. The results aren’t “if”—they’re “when.”

This is the essence of the Law of Attraction: our thoughts attract our outcomes.

2. The Story You Tell Yourself

The stories in your head can either empower you or trap you.

For example: I’ve been telling myself that the market is tough, and that’s why my real estate sales business is underperforming. That narrative makes the “market” the villain and leaves me powerless. But that’s not the mentality of a true leader.

We must ask ourselves: Does the story I’m telling myself keep me in control—or does it hand control away?

Leaders choose internal narratives that give them agency; stories that make them problem-solvers, not victims.

3. The Questions You Ask

Great questions create new paths forward. Here are two that challenged me this week:

If I couldn’t execute the way I have been so far this year, what would I do differently?

If success was guaranteed and there was no risk of failure, what would I achieve by year’s end?

Those two questions sparked powerful new ideas for me. I am confident they will for you, too.

Steady Leaders are thinkers. We monitor our identity, shape the story we tell ourselves, and ask powerful questions. That’s how we grow—and how we help our teams grow.

Identity → Story → Questions → Results

Stay steady.